And intentional I am not. A friend of mine lost their dog the other day and then found it. I meant to text: “I’m so glad you found your dog!” You know, because I was. But I never did. There is a difference between having good intentions and being intentional. I think a lot of us have loads of good intentions. Does this sound familiar? “Let’s hang out sometime.” “We should totally do that activity.” “Hey I want to come to one of your games.” We’ve all done this with a friend at some time or another, but for whatever reason all our promises are for not. Being intentional means we follow through.
But Kim, you say, didn’t you just talk about following through already?
Why yes, yes I did.
Being intentional and following through go hand in hand. That’s for sure. And I won’t even go in depth about how the two have differences. That’s not the point.
The point is intention. I’m pinpointing this one because it’s virtually nonexistent at times. It’s like we’ve lost the art of sticking to our promises and following through.
Me Culture. Social media’s thrown a lot of this kind of mentality in our faces. “If it doesn’t make you happy, forget it.” That’s talking about people, too. I don’t want to give you the impression that we should stay in harmful situations, but this whole idea of getting out when it gets uncomfortable prevents us from seeing the benefits of perseverance, and it’s also impacted our tendency to be a little selfish. I mean, don’t just blame it on society, the problem’s within us already.
Busy Schedules. Remember the days when you got up, took care of farm work, spent time in community, and that was it? Okay, I’ve never experienced that. Life in this millennium is fraught with activities and opportunities and instant communication. And it’s all made us VERY busy. We have very little time to just sit down and BE. To sit down and write a letter. To have to the opportunity for spontaneity and making new friends while still having time for the old ones. We are distracted, and we like it. We can think about our good intentions in a passing thought, but don’t have time to make the effort to turn good intentions into intention.
Follow the fitness industry mantra: “Make the change today. Not tomorrow.” Or something like that. Do not let yourself forget your good intentions. Set your distractions aside and your fear aside (I’ll be talking about that early next month). And simply do what you intended to do. This applies for all areas of life, but right not I’m talking about friendship.
“Do things today that tomorrow you will be proud of.”
Take the deeper step in your friendships, so that when tomorrow comes, you will have friendships that stand the test of history and time and heartache and difficulty. There is no solution, except to just do it. Don’t put that text, that phone call, that plan to get together, off any longer.