So thanks to site maintenance, I wasn’t able to post anything on Thursday. Then lo and behold, I forgot all about it entirely! So I had to make a decision, and I decided to do a really short post for today. It’s just going to have to do.
So let’s get started, shall we?
Last Tuesday, we talked about how a good friend is present, and we learned to put away our distractions when we’re with them. It shows people we care about them. Who knew that such a little thing could go a long way, huh?
So today, let’s be honest about this one (heheh, get it?). When we say a good friend is honest, we don’t mean the brutally kind of honest. But, the honesty should be there.
If I’m falling off the right path, I need to know. I may not want to know that I’m messing up my life, and I may resent you for telling me for a little while, but it’s better that you’re straight with me than if you’re wishy washy. Can’t give you a whole lot of respect for that, can I?
I also need to know how I’m hurting you. As a human, I guarantee you that I will hurt your feelings and kick you when you’re down. It’s almost never intentional – I say almost because I’m going to give myself grace in case I’m just super awful – and I don’t want a misspoken word to be what causes our friendship to deteriorate. Especially if I don’t know that’s the reason. I’ve seen too many relationships fall apart because one friend won’t speak up. If a relationship is worth it to you, you fight for it. Whenever someone wants something enough, they don’t let go of it for anything. And if they don’t want something, they find whatever reason to give it up. Allowing for exceptions, that is the quintessential truth. And being honest, from the beginning, is a way to fight for others.
If a relationship is worth it to you, you fight for it.
We need that honesty. We need to know someone out there is fighting for us – that someone cares enough to help us in our personal growth. We also need love and kindness to wrap around that honesty, but we’ll take the brutal truth over nothing at all.
I wish I could be so strong to be that honest person, WITHOUT THE CRUEL INTENTION AND MALICE, but I have work to do on myself to get there.