I have a dear friend who I met while studying abroad. While I haven’t seen her in a couple years, I do follow her on social media. She goes on all of these wonderful adventures.
Honestly, I wonder if she still works, as how would she have time?
People like her live in an interesting place and travel to interesting countries and do interesting things. People like me have lived in the same place for their whole lives and like to Instagram their dinner. Not knocking it, just saying. I do it, too. Studying abroad was probably the most interesting thing I’ve ever done, and it pales in comparison to what my friend’s accomplished.
So there it is. Comparison.
It’s not new: Women have struggled with it for years, but it’s like social media has turned it into a raging monster. I’m not here to talk about social media, though. Let’s talk through how to be content wherever you live – if you don’t go on adventures and you don’t live in the top 10 most interesting places on earth.
I sure don’t. I live in a great city with lots of things to do. But it doesn’t have the reputation of New York or the climate of Orlando. And it’s smack dab in the Midwest, to which a lot of people would heehaw about. …did I just say “heehaw?”
But I don’t think I’m leaving anytime soon. Why?
Because my life is here. And what does a life consist of?
Jobs. Family. Friends. Maybe a gym and a favorite coffee shop and a Target if you’re lucky. For me, a good church home. I have all of that.
Sure the weather kinda sucks. And there aren’t any mountains or a beach. And lots of corn. But that’s okay because I have the elements of a great life – people.
If you want to be content wherever you live, it’s not going to be because of all the things you can do or the pretty views. Though they sure are nice. It’s going to be because of the people. Not all of us are fortunate enough to have family nearby (that they like, but that’s a whole other problem I’m not tackling here), but family doesn’t always have to be blood. We have neighbors, coworkers, church members, gym goers, fellow parents or students – people who have something in common with us, who also need good friendships as much as we do, who will give you something to do on a Friday night because you’ll be playing bingo with them for hours. Which is actually quite fun because of the people.
These people don’t have to agree on all the same things or look like you or even be in the same age bracket, but if you want to be happy where you live…sure, a job you like will make a difference, but friends will be the pièce de résistance. And not the ones online, though they are wonderful, but the friends you can drive to in an afternoon.