Here’s how, because I’m going to get right down to it. I am currently writing this before my kids wake up, and I am exhausted. I am zoning out while trying to think of an introduction for this post, and my brain can’t even structure a paragraph for me.
Maybe I should look at this post when I’m done writing it and do some reevaluating of my own.
So yes, when you’re at the point I’m at. Exhaustion, the brain isn’t working, you’re stressed because you’re trying to please everyone, important tasks are left to the wayside, you can’t remember when you spent good quality time with your loved ones…
When you’re overwhelmed and there’s no stopping point in site. That’s when you should make a change in your schedule. I get that there are times we have to fill up our lives, because there’s a point B we’re hoping to travel to, an end in sight. I’m in one of those situations myself. I hope. I hope the work I’m putting in will lead to some sort of change in my schedule.
Oh America, why is this even a topic we have to broach? Why don’t we have siestas and three hour school days for our kids and year-long maternity leaves? Why must we hustle so much?
Because if you’re overwhelmed and crying on the floor, if you’re getting sick because you don’t get enough sleep or proper nutrition, if the people who matter most to you don’t even know who you are, then you need to drop something.
I get that there are people out there who feel like they have no choice in this matter. A single parent who has to work two jobs to keep a roof over their kids’ heads, for example.
But I believe that even for you, if you fit into the category above, that lifestyle doesn’t have to be forever.
Your relationships and your health shouldn’t suffer because you want to please everyone or you feel like you have to do certain responsibilities.
What to Do to That Busy Schedule
Right now, before you fall asleep, list out all the responsibilities you have on your plate, and all the ways you spend your time. Choose one of those significant things to remove right now. Maybe it’s a volunteer opportunity you committed to for the entire year. Maybe it’s the second job you got to pay off debt (I’m all for paying off debt, but maybe, could you just cut back a few hours a week or live without your weekly manicure or pizza night to reallocate a few of those hard-earned dollars?) But find something and break up with it, for just a time at least, until you can find your footing and maybe another hour or two of sleep a week.