There’s more to goal setting than setting goals.
I’ve made many a New Year’s Resolution in the past. The years I didn’t were because people around me thought New Years Resolutions were a waste of time and just waiting to be broken. At the time, I thought so, too.
Looking back, I’ve probably completed, I don’t know, zero goals.
But, but. I’ll still make goals until the day I die. Part of that comes from personality. Some of us are all about planning for the future while others capitalize on the present moment.
Goals are valuable when you learn to couple them with grace upon grace.
That’s what I learned while reading Make it Happen by Lara Casey. So bear with the fact that it’s February and I’m just now posting this.
The biggest lesson I took away from this whole process is that a goal is set is more likely to complete when:
- They have a “why” behind them. You’re not just setting goals because you think you should.
- When you’ve been taking steps in the past.180 degree changes are possible, but more change happens steadily in little steps
- You’re unbelievably passionate about them
- You don’t forget about them
- You don’t arbitrarily pick something, but rather put in the work to develop a goal.
It started with reflection on the past year. I had to see where I was coming from; the high’s and low’s I’d forgotten with time.
Our highlights from 2015 are as follows:
- We welcomed Alice into our lives. I’m so grateful she came at the beginning of February, because we enjoyed most of the year with her.
- We went on our first cruise together. It was completely spontaneous and Alice was only 2.5 months old, but she got to enjoy her extended family and Adam and I reconnected and set a positive tone in our marriage for the rest of the year.
- I thoroughly enjoyed 2 months of maternity leave and snuggles
- Started the process with OMS, that completely changed to a different job, but the time I had with One Mission Society was a great character builder for me.
- I eventually learned to give myself some grace about working out, which made that possible for me to start working out with friends and build relationships.
- Adam and I began a standing racquetball date, another thing that helped strengthen our marriage.
- Adam blessed my desire to attend a conference I’d been dying to go to and I made really strong connections. Really, it helped form the trajectory of the next several months of my life.
- We started a garden. Adam ended up doing most of the work, but he loved it and we both learned a lot.
- I saw God answer prayer in my job.
- I was blessed with a chance to start earning a little extra money.
- I went to visit North Carolina with my mom and Alice. That state is one of my favorites and hosts one of my favorite persons.
- Our small group went up to the family cottage
- I started singing at church again, which has been wonderful. I love the way we worship together on stage, and it’s done a lot for my walk with God.
- Adam took new strides in his ministry.
- I started doing accountability with a friend.
- Something clicked inside me and I started madly cutting down on clutter. It’s still a process, but now I have a small wardrobe and we aren’t running out of places to put things like before.
- We got back on a budget, and that’s made all the difference in our financial decisions. It just goes to show you don’t need as much money as you think, oftentimes.
And I suppose one must also share what didn’t work in 2015:
- I got very lackluster in pulling myself out of bed in the morning. That’s what happens when you work evenings and don’t sleep well during the night.
- With that, I did not get good sleep. I can blame it on Alice, but I could have done better about going to bed early as much as possible.
- Our small group went through a lot of changes. This was not a negative thing, but I was personally not ready for it.
- I spent a lot of wasted time on social media and watching TV.
- There were multiple opportunities to be intentional, and I let them fall through the cracks.
- I ate horribly starting the minute I could after giving birth. So, pretty much the whole year.
- …Bad communication, comparison, and striving. I let a lot of things rob my joy. A lot of senseless things.
- I did struggle in feelings toward people.
- …Did not spend ample time with God.
- I worried a LOT.
Here are the three lessons I learned from all that:
- Time with God is never wasted.
- Time with the TV almost always is.
- My health is worth saying no to things that don’t even fill me up.
Next came the goal setting, which I’ll share on Monday.