Do you know how much men love to be noticed and appreciated for what they do? A lot! Yes, they do have an “ego,” but it’s just more that they simply need affirmation, more so from their spouse (or significant other) than anyone else.
As a woman, I sometimes forget that my husband needs to know he’s doing a good job, that he holds my respect and adoration. I spend more time nagging or complaining than I do looking for the positives. And there are a lot of positives.
Since my blog trends toward the saving-money-and-using-it-wisely theme, I will point out that loving on our husbands (or boyfriends) doesn’t need to be an expensive thing. First off, you’ll save yourself a lot of trouble if you first find out what his love language is. This is the gesture he responds to most. If you don’t know what love language your spouse has, check out this informative book, or take the profile in the first link.
Regardless of what reaches your husband most, I’m pretty sure he will appreciate words, whether they’re written down or spoken. And that is such a simple thing to do! At no cost to you, minus a little bit of paper and ink if you choose the written path.
My hubby made sure to replace our toilet paper in the bathroom when it ran out. It’s such a small thing, but when you’re in the bathroom and out of toilet paper, you appreciate the action a lot more. I don’t want to take for granted what he does, so I wrote a note and (because I couldn’t find my tape) stapled it to the toilet paper roll. So while we’ll miss out on a couple panels, I have the opportunity to show my hubby that I love him and I noticed the extra step he took.
I prefer leaving a note as opposed to orally thanking someone when I can, because the written word is more permanent in someone’s mind, and it shows them that you cared enough to go the extra step.