Hi friend. Thanks for spending a moment with me in my corner. I know you’re busy. But you’re also curious, so instead of forcing you to hold your breath for the next 700 words, I’m going to tell you what visionaries do: they set goals.
Yes, I too have been the person who said she was not “into New Year’s Resolutions.” I’m still kind of not thanks to the huge stigma around that term. If you ask someone if they made any New Year’s Resolutions then they’ typically balk and say they don’t “do that thing.” But let’s not get stuck on resolutions, because goals are not the same thing, and they are what make a visionary a visionary.
The definition of a goal, according to one of those dictionary sites on the Internet, is:
The object of a person’s ambition or effort; an aim or desired result
Are goals really so terrible? Is it such a bad thing to work towards something?
Sorry, I don’t mean to get harsh, but I have a lot of dear people in my life that just kind of skate on by and take it day-by-day. So I know that’s a thing. And no, it’s not wrong to live in the moment. The moment is all you have. But you also have the risk of staying in the moment and not really moving anywhere. Unless you’re one of those lucky ones with opportunities falling down all around them. If you are, you can choose to ignore this post. But since most of us work hard for what we get, so please feel free to keep on reading.
So, what is the point of making goals?
Glad you asked. The point of making goals is not just to achieve the goals, because—news flash—that doesn’t always happen. But the several reasons I will gladly list below will hopefully get you thinking:
- You learn about yourself as a person. Setting a goal and working towards that goals entails constant evaluation, learning what works for you and where you struggle. At the end of this journey you’ll know how you tick. You’ll learn what works for you and what doesn’t. For example: I set a goal to run once a week for two months and I learned that I hate running. Actually, I was strongly reminded. I also learned that even though I hate running I was still out doing it, because it was a way my honey would exercise. Though he is a much better runner than me, so the whole experience is rather interesting.
- You learn flexibility. If we knew back when we were setting the goal what we know now, we may never have set the goal the way we did. Life circumstances change and we can’t always chug along in the way we started out. But we reevaluate along the way and tweak little bits. We may find at the end of the road that we didn’t end up where we thought we would, but the new landing spot is pretty nice, too.
- You learn about success and failure. Y’all need to be willing to fail. I think that’s why a lot of people are anti-goals. They just assume they’ll fail, so what’s the point? And you might. I’m not going to lie to you. But it’s not just success that makes you stronger. Actually, success doesn’t really make you stronger—that’s just a nice cherry on top of an ice cold, towering, chocolate sundae (I’m on Whole30 right now, can you tell?)—it’s the failures that you learn from, the humility you gain, and the community you find when others can admit to you that “yeah, I suck at that, too.”
- You may actually achieve something, and be all the better for it. When I did my tiny little Kickstarter campaign last fall, I had so many sleepless nights I don’t know how I’m walking around even now. It got funded last minute thanks to family, friends, and random strangers on the Internet. That little success taught me that maybe I could actually do these incredible things others do. It gave me a little more confidence to keep going, to keep building my business, and to keep setting more goals. Those stress ulcers, in the end, were worth it. Well, I mean, kind of.
Have I convinced you? That’s fine if I haven’t, because I think at least I reminded myself why I should continue to aim towards something. Goals help to refine us, teach us, and help up accomplish incredible things.