The answer may surprise you.
Read on to learn more about the first step to creating a life you love.
When I re-directed my focus of this blog, it was after years (and I mean years) of trying to figure out what I wanted to do with my life. And what I would enjoy doing. Also, waiting for that perfect moment of everything lining up in my life. I’m all about living life to the fullest, and I know we have a part in creating a life we love. Grace is a huge part of the equation but there’s work on our part. Yet, I still sit around waiting and dreaming and wondering.
Hi, my name is Kim. And I am 100 percent human. Like everyone else, I’d imagine.
I assume you’re right there with me when I say that I want my life to matter. Do you want that? I assume you’re right there with me when I say that I try something and often don’t wait long enough to see if it will work. Do you do that? I might assume you’re with me in the concept of trying to create a life I like, I enjoy, a life that means something and isn’t about me all the time. Are you with me in that? I might also assume you don’t realize what you already have at hand?
Because baby, that’s me. I’m raising my hand because I am always dreaming about tomorrow, about what life will be like when I win the Spartan Race or get discovered on the street or sign a book deal or my kids are finally old enough to get their own breakfast. Not only do I spend a whole lot of time imagining or waiting or getting distracted with possibilities, I pursue a lot of these things (except getting discovered on the street) without realizing I’m hoping they’ll fulfill some great purpose.
What we’re all missing
Surely I’m not the only one, right? Surely you’re with me, too?
Over the past several months I’ve realized one thing I’ve been overlooking. This idea that the Lord has given me this life in this moment for me to use, to appreciate, to serve others. Example: I’m not yet living the life where I’m winning a Spartan race. That’s not what God has called me to right now. When I don’t realize that and dream all day about racing, I’m not living the fullness of this moment. But instead of always looking into the future with a big dose of hope that I’ll get my big break in “whatever,” I realize that whatever happens today, I already have everything I need.
Maybe I don’t have yet have the ability to deal with a teenager, but I do have the wherewithal to handle a little toddler (which is what I have anyway). Or maybe I don’t have that relationship with the big author, blogger, publishing house, Instagram following, etc., but I happen to have this little blog already. And no one can stop me from writing on it.
Here’s another way to look at this idea. If I expect to win an elite heat Spartan Race, it’s not going to happen through a big dose of hope or waiting for my schedule and motivation to align with some perfect strategy of fitness regimes. It’s going to happen because right now, in this moment, I’m going to choose to work out and not eat the cookie dough. And then I’ll have to make that same choice again tomorrow.
The same goes for writing, for motherhood, for building whatever dream we have.
So what is this first step to creating a life you love?
Glad you asked. I think it’s less about finding that perfect strategy, that perfect network, that perfect amount of money, or that perfect schedule. Because when those things do line up, when we are gifted them – are we going to appreciate them and use them in the best way? I’d hope so. But I think, before we get there, we need to appreciate everything we have right now.
I’ll be honest, when I started taking stock of my resources and my relationships, I discovered I really didn’t need anything more, at least not in the moment.
Related: I go into the idea of using your resources well in this post: The Point of Giving In
And isn’t the present moment all we’re guaranteed, anyway?
I found that I have all I need to be content, to love well, and to start building the dream God has placed on my heart. Right now. One day, yes, I hope I can run 10 miles at a fast pace and do a pull-up or two. I’ll need that ability for a Spartan. But today, I can go run two miles at a slow pace without much thought. I couldn’t do that a few months ago. However, I can build on these two miles tomorrow and maybe run a little faster. And I will be thankful I can do it at all.
Honestly, this is changing my typically negative, worrisome, overly-dramatic outlook on my life.
Thank you Lord.
So I want to help you get there, if this at all makes sense. I’ve created a little 25 day challenge that, frankly, you could also do in an afternoon. Because I believe that you probably have everything you need in this moment, too. And if you can learn to appreciate what you have, that’s going to help you utilize your current gifting and strengths better, and love your people more.
Access it below:
Like I said, this is changing little old pessimistic, “I’ll never do anything with my life” me.
It all starts with the mindset, the faith, the belief. Not the resources or the schedule.